Sunday, 16 June 2019

Suzi and I became one! (March & April 2019)


These last couple of months have been filled with anticipated pleasures, which actually means Jerry undertook  disbursing our finances. It seems to me after many many years Jerry is hearing what I am musing over; fearfully he is virtually inside my head and just to add from the outset, I’m not complaining its taking a bit of getting use to; an upbeat hubby:)

Perhaps to put into context and qualify a little. For quite a number of years we, and particularly Jerry, have been under an extreme stress of worry when we had our pension SIPPS blatantly stolen from us by companies the government recommended people should consider investing in, and Jerry managed this for us both. In time it became evident these companies were not legitimate and stolen all of our investment, so we started a process with the Financial Ombudsman which has taken years to come to a conclusion. The upshot being the Financial Ombudsman ruled in our favor pursuing conversations with the scamming companies which enabled them to wind-up their businesses into liquidation, the upshot being we had absolutely no access to our investments. The next advice was the Financial Ombudsman would pass our file onto the Financial Services Compensation Scheme (FSCS) who would be in touch. Time passed Jerry became ill, I believe triggered by the enormous stress he was under through worry, and FSCS did not contact us. Once in our new home we picked up what had happened to the process with FSCS who confirmed they had not had any information from Financial Ombudsman we had to make a formal claim ourselves in order for FSCS to then do their own investigations. So last summer when Jerry went through his course of radiotherapy I then applied to FSCS, fortunately not as difficult as thought. Nine months or so later we hear we have been awarded very reasonable compensation for our losses, hence the ‘load has been lightened’ off particularly Jerry’s shoulders enabling him to live a brighter life at this moment in time, which has a positive impact on us all as we enjoy a brighter more joyful hubby/dad!

So I was bowled over with a new car, having made a passing comment how I would enjoy a sporty convertible as nobody ever was in my car with me. Jerry had been quietly researching for some time before it was suggested I might like to have a quick trip into Norwich and look at car or two. What he actually meant was, ‘… I’ve looked at this car, it’s the best for you around, I need to check Nic you can cope with a slightly bigger car and its automatic (I’ve never driven an automatic)…’ There I stood outside the Audi show room being shown a beautiful Quattro TT Roadster which means a 2-seater convertible, with my menfolk drawling beside me. It has taken a bit of getting use to and initially I found the worry of driving it overwhelming so suggested for the first week Jerry had it to take Dylan to school, which thrilled Dylan as he swanked into school blowing away any passing views of our seemingly poverty means having had to live in a caravan, that Dylan had had to put up with from time to time! Dylan revealed in the opportunity. This time gave me a bit of head space to talk myself into to ‘get my act together girl’ and drive the following week the 146 mile round trip across country on the A14 through the road improvements. That first trip was exhausting as I felt the strain of my nerves in my muscles constantly thinking I must keep both hands on the steering wheel, needed a few cuppas once I got to work to then worry about ‘…OMG I’ve got to get home now!... From that point on me and my ‘SUZI Roadster’ have become one.
Absolutely love the drive now so much so, my next job is in Tower Hamlets East London at the very end of the M11, I drive this every day being a total trip drive of 186 miles. This role came about through my own network of past contacts working in the same health economies, a bit of ‘who you know’ and being instantly available the role fell into my lap. So with the light mornings and light evenings and a handsome car, parked in a loosely secure parking area with a shortish tube ride into work, I’m driving and delight in my own bed every night. A blissful contract opportunity.

The next major purchase Jerry pursued was our hot tub which we had been musing over for some time. It sort of all fell together with it being Dylan’s birthday and wanting to get him his own den in the garden. So the conversation went, a den needs a concrete pad well we might as well extend for the full length of the garden to be ready for the hot tub, OH I say!, as I’m presented with a brochure and wiped into the hot tub shop where the discussion is about colour as previous conversations have already selected the hot tub which suits us. Blimey, whistle-stop tour of hot tubs! The concrete pad was constructed, garden re-engineered and then quicker than expected hot tub delivered and positioned, just after Easter. Wow what a lot of fun we have had as a family, it’s the seating altogether in the same space outside in the tub, familiar to that caravan feeling again! Its undoubtedly improved my end of the day feeling after that long work drive, I slip into the tub for a relaxing unwind benefiting from quality sleep even if it has been shortened a bit.



We have enjoyed a bevy of birthdays around our late Easter spring, starting with Dylan as he turned into a 9 year old boy and relished his ‘Dylan’s Den’, a space consumed with Lego, Playmobil and all stuff that’s for boys with no requirement to tidy up unless he choices too. Heaven, I can see the lounge carpet again and walk across the carpet pain free as the danger of boys little bits and pieces are removed!
I’m hoping sharing the video of Dylan’s day will allow you to embrace his celebrations with us, enjoy.

Following Dylan’s birthday in the Easter holidays we took ourselves off to Winterton-on-Sea for a few days in the most dinky divergent holiday homes we have ever stayed in, definitely going back to this splendid bit of Norfolk coast and holiday resort. The video says it all.
Mother’s Day became a weekend of saluting ‘motherhood’ as we took our own respective glorious mum's out for the afternoon for tea, relished locally with the most stunning bouquets to offer. Then the next day I had my own special occasion at BewilderMUM, frolicking through the mystical surroundings of the Twiggles and Boggles, capturing a moment of play as Dylan grows out of Bewilderwood theme park.



Easter was a blaze of extraordinary warm weather and I made a request to my menfolk we had a day together celebrating being together, left to Jerry to choose what we did, so we end up going for a meal – no surprises there food is not far from most of his thinking! So walked down to our local and had a charming, relaxing afternoon with very tasty food suiting all our palates on Good Friday. Then Easter Sunday was a charming bigger family muster at Stone Barn kindly hosted by Vanessa and Steven  for an all family favorite Egg Hunt, running around their sizable garden looking for ‘warm’ eggs. We always enjoy as all the small people and babies with bigger kids and parents come together and catch up.
Good Friday: Milo and Dylan

Egg Hunt: Megan Ben & Katherine

Egg Hunt: Emily Callum  Hannah and baby Ada

Egg Hunt: Lily Vanessa & Sara

Egg Hunt: Jake & Jerry

Egg Hunt: Nicola & toddling Maxwell


Egg Hunt: Megan Sandra Kevin & Lauren

Egg Hunt: Steven & Callum
Egg Hunt: Megan Lauren snoozing-Sandra Kevin & Nick

Egg Hunt: Llewella

Egg Hunt: Grandma Sara, Dylan with Ada, Finley & India behind

Egg Hunt: Esmae & Lucia
Then we caught up for Rogers birthday too, celebrating his double number years, which always bit of a stark reality moment as it makes me realize my own age as I am only six months behind Rog, a moment of ‘oops I am older than I thought’! It certainly was a birthday of cake and more cake quite overwhelming on the sugar scale.

Finally a trip out with my dear old Mum to Dover, which we have done a few times now. To one of the most peaceful and scenically quite inspiring places to visit the grave of Ivy May, her own mother who died when she and her sister were young children. The only sounds are the birds all around in the woods on the edge of the cemetery, quite an untroubled place. And then we find a cup of tea travel down Dover High Street and come home. Very special to do with my Mum.